Questions to Ask Before Ending
a Relationship
By Tigress Luv,
The Breakup Guru
Used with permission from
Flip This
Breakup
What questions should
you ask yourself before ending a relationship?
Questions to Ask Before Ending a Relationship:
Question 1...
1) DO I REALLY WANT TO END THIS RELATIONSHIP?
Make sure you are SURE you want to end the relationship! Don't burn your
bridges and then decide you want to do a u-turn and go back. There are many
ways to break up with your partner; there aren't that many ways to get them
back after you ripped their world apart. Most of the time, once a relationship
is over, it is over.
Are there any questions to ask yourself
before ending the relationship with your soon-to-be ex? Yes, this is a big
- and permanent step - so make sure you have resolved to the fact that the
relationship is over.
Questions to Ask Before Ending a Relationship:
Question 2...
2) HOW WILL MY WORLD BE DIFFERENT WITHOUT
THEM IN IT? Will your life be better or worse? Will there be more peace,
or will there be emptiness? Do they improve your life, or do they
make your life full of anxiety and stress?
Questions to Ask Before Ending a Relationship:
Question 3...
3) CAN OUR RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS BE WORKED
OUT? Many relationship have problems that seem huge, but in reality are really
quite manageable. It is easy to seek outside help, or to buy books that are
aimed at helping you get through difficult relationship problems. Some problems,
however, like abuse, are not 'fixable'. One should never stay in an
abusive relationship. Life is too short to waste it living in unhappiness
and fear.
Questions to Ask Before Ending a Relationship:
Question 4...
4) DO YOU SECRETLY HOPE THAT ENDING THE
RELATIONSHIP WILL ACTUALLY BRING THEM CLOSER TO YOU? Are you hoping that
by leaving your mate you make them realize that they are behaving or treating
you in a way that just isn't acceptable by you? Are you hoping that ending
the relationship will 'wake your mate up' and treat you
better?
Questions to Ask Before Ending a Relationship:
Question 5...
5) ARE YOU GOING TO REGRET ENDING THE
RELATIONSHIP? This is serious question. Can you imagine your life without
this person in it? Does the thought of them moving on and getting involved
with someone else make you shudder?
Questions to Ask Before Ending a Relationship:
Question 6...
6) IS OUR PRIDE AND EGO GETTING IN THE
WAY OF OUR HAPPINESS TOGETHER? Sometimes, pride can destroy the best of
relationships. There is no place for pride in a successful relationship.
It can be awfully lonely being 'right'. Often times the key to relationship
success is to throw away your pride and just be the fallguy... "Yep, I'm
an idiot and I was the wrong one. I'm sorry."
Questions to Ask Before Ending a Relationship:
Question 7...
7) IS MY LACK OF ABILITY TO ACCEPT THEM 100% CAUSING A RELATIONSHIP RIFT?
If you cannot accept your partner 100% - faults, flaws, quirks, and all
- then you will not be happy with them. Getting out of this relationship
will not cure you. You will not ever be happy in any relationship
without first learning that the key to 'relationship happiness' is in being
able to acknowledge and accept all your partners negative
characteristics as well as their positive ones, because every partner you
will ever have will have some 'flaw'. Nothing is perfect in
nature.
Questions to Ask Before Ending a Relationship:
Question 8...
8) ANSWER THE BELOW QUESTIONS HONESTLY: For instance, don't fill in the question
with a romantic or angry look at your partner, but RATHER with an honest
and UNBIASED answer.
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Do you love spending time together?
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Do you rarely disagree on things?
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Do you have a lot in common, and share
many interests?
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Is the sex good?
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Are you physically attracted to their
appearance?
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Do they treat your family and friends
well?
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Do they have a pleasing personality?
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Can you talk to this person?
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Do you know why you want to break up?
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Do you both share the same dreams,
aspirations, and goals?
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Do you fight a lot?
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Do they show you they care by doing those
little things that often go unnoticed?
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Do they ever make you feel bad about
yourself?
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Are they truthful and loyal?
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Are you scared of this person?
How you can stop
the ending of your relationship.
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